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Checklist of Flaws and Assets
4 Character Defect Opposite Asset 4
aggressive, belligerent good-natured, gentle
angry
2
forgiving, calm, generous
apathetic interested, concerned, alert
apprehensive, afraid calm, courageous
argumentative, quarrelsome agreeable
arrogant, insolent unassuming, humble
attacking, critical fair, self-restrained
avoidant faces problems and acts
blocking honest, intuitive
boastful modest, humble
careless
1
careful, painstaking, concerned
cheating honest
competitive (socially) cooperative
compulsive free
conceited
1
,
self-imp ort ant humble, modest
contradictory, oppositional| reasonable, agreeable
contrary, intractable, pigheaded reasonable
controlling lets go, esp. of other's lives
cowardly brave
4
critical
3
non-judgmental, praising, tolerant,
cynical open-minded
deceitful guileless, honest
defensive open to criticism
defiant, contemptuous respectful
denying honest, accepting
dependent accepts help but is self-reliant
depressed, morose| hopeful, optimistic, cheerful
4
dirty, poor hygiene clean
4
dishonest
3
honest
disloyal, treacherous faithful, loyal
4
disobedient obedient
4
disrespectful, insolent respectful, reverent
4
enabling setting boundaries, tough love
envying
2
,
3
empathetic, generous, admiring
evasive, deceitful candid, straightforward
exaggerating honest, realistic
faithless, disloyal reliable, faithful
falsely modest honest, has self-esteem
falsely prideful
2
,
3
modest, humble
fantasizing, unrealistic practical, realistic
fearful
3
confidant, courageous
forgetful responsible
gluttonous
2
, excessive moderate
gossiping
3
closed-mouth, kind, praising
greedy
2
,
3
moderate, generous, sharing
hateful
3
forgiving, loving, concerned for others
hypersensitive tolerant, doesn't personalize
ill-tempered
1
, bit chy good-tempered, calm
impatient
3
patient
impulsive, reckless| consistent, considered actions
inconsiderate thoughtful, considerate
indecisive, timid firm, decisive
indifferent, apathetic, aloof caring
inflexible, stubborn open-minded, flexible
insecure, anxious self-confident, secure
insincere
3
, hypoc ritical sincere, honest
intolerant
1
tolerant, understanding, patient
irresponsible, reckless responsible
isolating, solitary sociable, outgoing
jealous
1
,
3
trusting, generous, admiring
judgmental broadminded, tolerant
justifying (own actions) honest, frank, candid
lack of purpose purposeful
lazy, indolent industrious, conscientious
loud tasteful, quiet
lustful
2
healthy sexuality
lying
3
honest
manipulative candid, honest, non-controlling
masked, closed honest, open, candid
nagging supportive
narrow minded open minded
obscene, crude modest, courteous
over emotional emotionally stable
perfectionistic realistic goals
pessimistic| realistic, hopeful, optimistic, trusting
possessive generous
prejudiced open-minded
procrastinates
3
disciplined, acts promptly
projecting (negative) clear sighted, optimistic
rationalizing candid, honest
resentful
1
,
3
, bitter, hateful forgiving
resisting growing willing to grow
rude, discourteous polite, courteous
4
sarcastic
1
praising, tolerant
self-important
3
humble, modest
self-centered caring of others
self-destructive, self-defeating self-fulfilling
self-hating self-accepting, loving
self-justifying
3
admitting wrongs, humble
self-pitying
3
grateful, realistic, accepting
self-righteous humble, understanding
self-seeking
3
selfless, concerned for others
selfish
1
,
3
altruistic, concerned with others
shy outgoing
slothful (lazy)
2
,
3
industrious, taking action
spiteful, malicious forgiving
stealing honest
stubborn open-minded, willing
sullen cheerful
superior, grandiose, pretentious humble
superstitious realistic, no magical thinking
suspicious trusting
tense calm, serene
thinking
negatively
3
being positive
treacherous trustworthy
undisciplined, self-indulgent disciplined
unfair fair
unfriendly, hostile, bitchy friendly
4
ungrateful thankful, grateful
unkind, mean, malicious, spiteful kind
4
unsupportive of others supportive
untrustworthy, unreliable, dishonest| trustworthy
4
useless, destructive helpful
4
vain modest, humble
vindictive forgiving
violent gentle
vulgar
3
polite
wasteful thrifty
4
willful accepting of the inevitable
withdrawn outgoing
wordy, verbose frank, to the point, succinct
Other dysfunctional ways of acting, feeling or
thinking which cause others or me pain (specify in
the following
Review of Flaws
).
See source footnotes on page 2.